My husband and I have been married for 12 years. For the past eight years he has been cheating. I have found miscellaneous cell phones around the house, for example, under my dresser, one time, under his dashboard and another time a buzzing phone fell out of his clothing. One time, I found a picture of another woman on top of my kitchen cabinet with lifestyle condoms. I have been through his closet and I found condoms and Viagra pills in his shoes and the pockets of his jackets. He is very aggressive and a compulsive liar. Everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie! He will lie with the evidence in my hands. One day he just laughed in my face. I imagined myself shooting him or stabbing him in his sleep. His father is the same way; very disrespectful to women. He doesn’t want counseling and when I am at work, or away from the house, I am never able to get him. He’s always claiming that his phone is dead, he didn’t hear it, he left it in the car – a bunch of crap! I want to leave him but I don’t know how. I own a home and it’s in my name only. I have to plan before I leave.
What can I do?
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